Friday, January 6, 2012

Rishtey-Naate


It’s been long that I have penned down something! Finally today a thought struck my mind and I immediately opened my laptop. It’s such a good feeling after all, expressing feelings through writing!! What compelled me to write is an episode of Crime Petrol I watched today, in fact it was just the climax that I caught switching channels. The 3 minute climax was enough for me to understand the story behind the crime. It showed a man in 50’s killed his younger brother and ailing bed ridden mother because he spent his entire life taking care of them, leaving him frustrated because of lack of any support leave appreciation and because of which, he could not live his own life his way by getting married! Though what he did was uncalled for, killing for any reason is unforgiving, but somewhere I found myself relating to his agony. Taking care of entire house, feeding unsupportive ailing mother and brother, and still feel ignored and not needed, anyone would resent and feel humiliated. Selfless love is definitely a virtue but not commonly found.
Dirty fights, calling names, blame gaming; I have seen it all around myself. Whenever I used to see people around me fighting, both verbally and physically, I always feared that killer streak in them.  By god grace, they have survived all!  I know we all have suffered mentally, but thank god, nobody lost their senses ever and always coped up with each other.  It might be happening in so many households though, one person bearing the brunt alone. The ones, who succumb to such disgraceful behavior of their own people, end up resulting loosing their mental calm so much so that they lose all sense of right or wrong at slight agitation.  That’s why being grateful and being forgiven are so much emphasized and required virtues in this fast moving world today.  Our one small appreciation and support can build someone’s life and help them continue with their struggle.
This is only one aspect. As the world is witnessing change with more nuclear families, a person only considers his/her spouse and children as his only people. And they say that with everyone getting busy, who has got time for some relatives, be it their own siblings or parents. I fail to understand this behavior though. How come your parents and your siblings become just your “relatives” with only few visits required to formally say hello only at festivals! Why do same people become distant with time with whom we shared everything till we were able to be independent on our own? True, maintaining a relationship is a two side process, both the giver and receiver should be willing but nothing is wrong with being just humble, courteous and compassionate with all! Someone quoted “Effort is the only thing under our control”, aptly said. Nobody can feel what is going inside a person suffering crisis, be it someone our known or a total stranger, they might not also need our sympathy or empathy, but we can always be nice to them, all it takes is some kind love words. Appreciating small gestures goes a long way for instant connect .Neither would anyone come and ask you for being nice, nor would anyone complain, but it might just make them feel good. A good example I came through recently in newspaper- a person considered mentally ill was abandoned by his family, but the neighbors came to rescue. Because of their efforts, the same person is back to his job today!
All we need to realize is every other person is also a “human” just like us, with their own good and bad characteristics. Situations play a major role in deciding our life paths, but human virtues doesn’t differentiate, only varying in degrees to what one follows. Apparently, that also doesn’t mean we should let someone destroy us because we were “too nice”! Those examples are also numerous to cite.
It all depends on our sense of right and wrong, but ask for advice if unable to decide. Talking big is easier said than done but If we all fulfill our basic responsibilities as a human and use our head-heart combination correctly, world would be a much better place to live!!